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Have you ever heard… “your why should make you cry?”
Well it did, every day for months. I had the hardest preschool class one year and a really flaky boss. I was having the hardest internal struggle. I needed my classroom to function, but I wasn’t about to give up on the kids who needed more. Guys, I’m not exaggerating when I said I cried. I cried for the kids and I cried for me. It is stressful. Not knowing what to do next, feeling like you’ve tried everything to earn trust, compliance… peaceful transitions. Challenging behavior is hard for the parents and caregivers, but it’s also REALLY hard on the kids. Do you think that they want to scream their head off and throw a tantrum when they can’t finish their art project?
Would you believe me if I told you there’s a way out?
You don’t just have to “survive this stage.“
Guess what? You can even come out of this stage STRONGER in your relationship and with a child STRONGER in problem solving and communication skills.
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New child - deployed parent - busy season for working parents.
Changes happen... and whoever is left with the kids is probably overwhelmed.
Without realizing it... sometimes we are paying more attention to the negative behaviors... and not focusing on the behaviors we want.
"Be nice to your sister" "Bring me a diaper please" *takes pictures of the baby* "Be soft!" "Quiet voice!" Pretty soon we pay so much attention to these behaviors, that this is what our child WANTS to do, for connection with us.
NONE of those phrases were mean. But none of them were focusing on him. They were all about sister. Absolutely, we want him to be helpful and kind, and quiet. BUT, we need to pad all of those directions with POSITIVE, WARM interactions. Look him in the eye, "you are a good helper, thank you" "Wow bud, look at the tower" "Charlie I love you" *take picture of baby, take picture of Charlie*
I’m gonna be honest with you and say, I HATE SNOW. Snow clothes and all that jazz, I’m over it REAL fast. So I’m not the mom out there building igloos and slides. If you’re that mom, I have lots of snow… come on over and step in for me???
What’s challenging is not giving into the tv, electronics, video games, ipads etc. all winter long. It’d be really easy to replace that outside time with these things, but guess what. I have a plethora of solutions for you.
#1. Indoor Gross Motor Toys
I’ll show you a peek at a few others we have. But my climbing, bouncing boy… he has a huge amount of energy. He wants to jump and climb, wrestle… kick things. And if I don’t give him a safe place to do that… guess what… he’s jumping, climbing and kicking me and his sister. NOT an option. Today I’m going to talk about my Lily and River climber. It’s AMAZING.
I’m all about open ended toys. This is that. There’s not one way to use it. The slide can be at a million levels. It can also be a playdough table, a place to play cars, a ramp… and then flip it over it’s a rock climbing wall or a ramp with obstacles. I didn’t discover this on my own. I put the toy out… and then just let Charlie do WHATEVER the heck he wanted with it. I love that it can be a climber, or it can turn into a fort, a ladder for his stuffed puppy to climb. It’s AMAZING.
Highly highly recommend this toy as an indoor playground, climber, slide… and so much more.
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Do your kids ever fight cleaning up their toys? Run away in the store? Jump on the couch or hit their friends over and over? When will it click? When will they just listen?
We will talk about strategies to teach children to choose to listen and prevent negative responses, followed by effective consequences when not listening is NOT an option.
All you do is print out pictures of the things you want them to have more exposure and play with... and use packing tape to add them to their blocks or other toys. I started with pictures of his family- his grandma, my mom, the temple and a church-house. Charlie has a really hard time going to nursery. So I figured if we added the church to his play, then maybe talking about it and seeing it, driving his family to it with his wood cars would help the transition go smoother.
We pulled up to church the following Sunday. And Charlie points and says "church, church!" FIRST VICTORY. He was stoked and he labeled it correctly.
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