For the parents who feel struggle with challenging behavior, if you use screens for survival, if you are just tired and don't know how you could do more, or you feel like you aren't doing enough. If you want to prepare your children for kindergarten, and the scary world. If you want your child to learn educational things… but you don't know where to start. If you want your children to develop mentally and emotionally, and want to support your children to realize the consequences of their choices.
You're about to read about something that will be a parenting game changer…
#1. Kids need more… PLAY!
Not educational apps, not elite preschools, not club sports, dance classes, money…
#2. We don't want happy kids, we want AUTHENTIC kids. Say what?
Instead of saying “don’t cry” or “don’t be mad,” say, “it’s okay to cry,” “what can you do about this?”
We need to help them understand their feelings, and what to do about them… instead of explode 💥
If you exercise children’s regulating skills, then they will become better at it.
Did you know that you can teach emotional problem solving & regulating with play?
#3. End Parent Guilt (aka Mom Guilt) cuz you’re doing the BEST you can!
Parent stress prevents parents from creating optimal environments for their children to develop and thrive
Parents who used family resources during early childhood, do so much better! (I have evidence)
When your head hits the pillow at night…. And you have that weight… I worked too much, I yelled too much, I didn't hug my son today… wow I really blew it….
STOP IT! Let me do the heavy lifting, one activity a day, will keep the parent stress (and guilt) away.
Guralnick, Hammond, Neville, & Connor, 2008; Woodman, 2014
#4 Discipline is not something we do to children. It's something we develop within them. But how…
Learn to look at behavior differently
What if we can get past WHAT they are doing, and discover WHY they are doing it? Then we could teach them how to communicate that WHY appropriately and the WHAT goes away
#5 TV + iPads is not the only way to get things done (Second truth, iPhone apps are not the only way to have lunch with friends. )
What most people do when the going gets tough and they need a break is stick their kid in front of a movie, a game or an iPad.
I am going to give you new ways to support independent play so you can get things done without the guilt or fight for more screen time.
If screens are used as a bandaid, a “cool down,” a boredom buster…The tantrum, bad attitude or outbursts still happen
Binging TV shows, or the early use of smart phones has negative implications for mental health.
The leading cause for attempted suicide… “my parent took away my phone.” Kids are actually bonding with their phones. tears
Screen busters are highly engaging activities without negative behavior implications.
#6 Connection & being intentional with our time makes us FEEL good
It's time to save the relationship and take back childhood.