does any of this sound familiar?
I’m sick of fighting with my kids all the time
I don’t understand WHY (s)he’s behaving this way
My punishments are not working
I want to have fun as a parent
My kids fight and argue and whine ALL the time
My spouse and I are NOT on the same page
I can manage this, but I’m worried for this behavior to escalate…
I love my child, and I want to connect with them better
I’m having trouble juggling the individual needs of each child
how would it feel to be a problem solving family?
I have the hack of all parent hacks for you, it’s called “function-based positive behavior support”
Practical & Effective ✔
what are they communicating with their behavior?
Often, we are missing something that our child needs… and stopping the behavior without addressing the need can be damaging and shift the challenging behavior into worse, more defiant behaviors
What are they trying to communicate?
Why are they behaving this way?
Do they need connection? Do they need touch?
what do they NEED?
how can we prevent common challenges?
Become aware of their triggers
Learn effective ways to prevent challenges
Put focus on the positive
what skills are they missing to be successful?
When they are doing a negative behavior, it’s because they are missing the skills to express, communicate or regulate their actual need
We will look at the best time to teach with CREATE and individualized strategies tailored to your child
I will send templates for physical supports when necessary
how can we respond effectively?
This is where we take out the yelling, the spanking, the time-outs, the empty threats
We talk about logical consequences — relatable, respectful and reasonable
Follow through with a consequence without feeling guilty
Learn how to set expectations that are enforceable
Any parent can become the parent they feel proud to be by showing up, getting support and trying… because Positive Parenting is not inherited, it's learned.
Let’s make a plan specific to your child and your needs
“I’m a bad parent for needing help“
FAKE NEWS. FAKE NEWS. FAKE NEWS.
Parent coaching actually tells me that you are an AMAZING parent. The parents and teachers who receive coaching actually do their very best, and know they can’t do it all alone. This is ADVANCED level parenting/teaching.
there are no “bad“ kids.
Children with challenging behavior can be disruptive to optimal functioning at school and at home. Children who are having a hard time staying focused in school, or entering play with new friends may end up in trouble. Teachers may even suggest the child needs to be tested, seek professional counseling or medication.
There is a place for all these things! However, sometimes we are missing small things that are impacting our children in HUGE ways.
Do you have a child with a firecracker personality?
We call these children “spirited.“ And fortunately for us, they make up 20% of the population. They may be hard to parent. They may be extra sensitive, extra explosive and extra stubborn. But they are future leaders. And there are ways to help with their challenging behavior without diminishing their spirit.
Let me help you…
determine the function of your child’s behavior (aka what they are communicating with their behavior)
prevention strategies to help them listen, enjoy situations that are often difficult, and even avoid the medication route
new skills, timing and execution for teaching children the skills that they are missing in key interactions
new responses, logical consequences and response strategies that do not escalate or encourage the negative behavior
what people are saying:
a few options…
After a in-classroom sessions, the parents and teachers will tell me, this is a different child. It doesn’t take long to make a lasting difference for your home and classroom for multiple children with challenging behavior.
Learn skills you need to identify the function, prevent triggers, teach new skills individually and class-wide, and respond with effective, age-appropriate discipline strategies.
Don’t want coaching, but would love to learn more about Positive Behavior Support and how to implement individualized plans, look no further… I will come to your center and do a 2-hr staff training!
online or in-home challenging behavior coaching
Let’s pretend you have a magic genie that could tell you why your child does (insert the most annoying behavior they do)…
Maybe you have some ideas, but you just can’t quite figure out what your child is trying to communicate with their behavior.
This is called the “function.“ I discuss this in some of my classes and when you have never heard of behavior being talked about in terms of function before… it’s a little bit confusing.
So, with that… Lauren the Genie here… let me help!
Find out what your child is trying to communicate with their challenging behavior and the become aware of their missing skills, so that you can replace that negative behavior with empowering skills to take with them through life.
30 min coaching call
Good information Lauren… but what if your child doesn’t go to their safe spot? What if your child doesn’t listen when you give them a choice? What if, what if… what if.
Let’s name it the “what if” call.
Basically your wish, is my command. Ask me anything related to the classes or posts, and I can be your personal guide to help it actually be implemented effectively.
P.S. I talk pretty fast. So, you really can get your money’s worth in 30 minutes.
look at the research, this works!
I have 100’s of pages of research & years of hands on experience showing you this works! …in classrooms AND in homes.