Teach in the GREEN ZONE
Usually, we have a challenging behavior happen... and that's the moment we use to have a stern talk, a lecture, an explanation or a push toward empathy. Nothing wrong with that, it's actually amazing we care enough to try and teach our children right from wrong.
BUT, if we rearrange the timing of our teaching, we may be able to get through these challenging behaviors with much more ease, less monologues... and with clear boundaries.
There are two reasons why this is NOT the most effective time to teach.
1. It can be reinforcing to give this much attention to challenging behavior
2. they are not in the emotional state to be receptive to any teaching
But mostly watch my video to understand, HOW (and when) to teach effectively, but still enforce your limits.
Lauren Pace, MS | Parenting Coach | Child Behavior Coach | Utah | WA